Why do we love stories?
Books have always fascinated me, especially those that told stories. As a child, my mother read bed time stories that took me to other galaxies. I managed to start reading on my own when I was three, thanks to my parents’ love and big library, and I still read stories insatiably. I’m sure I’m not the only stories-addict… but, why? Why do people like to read stories: stories of others whom we neither met nor knew, stories of joy and misery, stories of love and death, stories that happened and those that still wander in the future?
Honestly, I never gave that much thought until lately… and specifically until after my TEDx talk (TEDxArarStreetWomen – the first women TEDx in Jordan). Being forced to write and then tell a story of ‘Me’ is beyond any other experience I ever lived. The combination of stress, joy, memories and emotions was overwhelming. It is as if my life was put on hold and every single moment would pass by as if it is re-happening all over. Suddenly, I felt re-discovered… it was scary and enjoyable at once. There were moments when I felt I had no story worth telling… and then in a few hours, I would feel that strong urge to unlock my soul and let it all out. Of course, at the end, it must be in between… I chose to talk for 9 minutes only! Undoubtedly, the story of another human impacts us somehow, whether consciously or unconsciously. A story well-told is like a time watch… it could take you across ages – backwards or forwards – and puts you on the same road and in the same seat as any of the story’s main characters. There were stories that I didn’t want to finish, and there were others that I wish I forget forever.
To tell the story of another might require imagination, empathy, research and intellect. However, to tell the story of ‘Me’ requires an open mind and soul, and lots of emotion-ization.
While I strive to learn how to manage and control emotions especially those related to the most unforgettable moments and situations, within a week, I deployed a reverse process to emotion-ize all data and information. I learned how to weave the mind, heart and soul into a story worth telling.
The story of ‘You’, ‘We’
I thought that was it! I prepared the talk and rehearsed several times. I’m ready for the big day, I thought.
Sitting there in the theater hall watching and feeling every talk was another experience. The 17 other women (and man) sharing their stories of ‘Me’ left me awestruck for days. Obviously having the mind, heart and soul present helped me travel in every story’s time watch to live with every single speaker throughout her story. I smiled, laughed, cried and wow-ed for hours. The story of ‘You’ awakened a new dimension of ‘Me’ that was put to sleep.
I know now that ‘We’ shouldn’t listen when we are told to disconnect the mind, heart and soul… emotions are never too much.
I know now that every story is worth telling.
I want more than ever to make every day a visible thread in my colorful story.
With love to TEDxArarStreetWomen and all the women around the globe weaving a story every moment.